Fix It Up!

Song of Solomon

Earth Wind and Fire was a group that was popular when I was young. They had a song, “After the love is gone.”

1) Romance (how beautiful are you my darling) – marriage is not just a legal document.

Men, when is the last time you told your wife you loved her? Told her she was beautiful to you? Gave her flowers? Took her on a date? You say, “I’m no Romeo, but I promise you are married to a Juliette”, Thom Nelson. We often approach marriage like hunting. We woo them with flowers, cards, phone call, time and then we marry them and put them on a shelf as a trophy or hang them on the wall. What is the problem? It is the sin of laziness. And this goes both ways.

We must have that passionate romantic love for each other:
  1. with words
  2. with deeds

2) Passion- how very beautiful.

To have a wonderful relationship you must feel something. It must be real. It must be spontaneous. Let me tell you, when the passion goes you are setting yourself up for an affair.

Recognize how affairs often happen:
  1. Decline in affection and communication (passion)
  2. Encounter someone who meets the needs you feel are slighted
  3. You enjoy time with this person
  4. You begin to look for ways to be around this person or communicate with this person
  5. You communicate to the person how you feel . . . like a volley of tennis
  6. The physical fall

3) Focus on your spouse.

“Your eyes are like doves”, Solomon is looking into his bride’s eyes. Communicate with each other. Notice things about each other.

Chapter 7:1- How beautiful are your sandaled feet, even noticing feet.

Go on dates and talk to each other. Discuss things together.
  1. symbol of peace
  2. symbol of loyalty

4) Seek the blessings of God.

“Flock of goats streaming down Mount Gilead”. Gilead is the area where two of the tribes of Israel stayed before God.

5) Fix up for each other.

“She brushed her teeth for him.” Women, fix up for your husbands. Tonya and I knew a lady who fixed up for her boyfriend. She got him, then looked like a dirty hag all the time. She would go weeks without a bath. Men, I have known women to come to Tonya and me and say, “ please have him take a bath before going to bed. He stinks so badly.” I heard of someone asked Billy Graham, “Was it sinful for a woman to wear makeup”? His response, so I am told was, “a good coat of paint never hurt an old barn.”

6) Remain affectionate.

Talking about her lips (v.3). Make sure that romance remains a part of your marriage.

7) Protect your marriage (v. 4).

  • permanence. . . never use the D word
  • commitment . . .realize that it is a commitment that nothing will shake
  • Do something now before it is too late.
An old man got on a bus one February 14th, carrying a dozen roses. He sat beside a young man. The young man looked at the roses and said, “Somebody’s going to get a beautiful Valentine’s Day gift”, “Yes, said the old man. A few minutes went by and the old man noticed his young companion was staring at the roses. “Do you have a girlfriend?” the old man asked. “I do,” said the young man. “I’m going to see her right now, and I’m going to give her this Valentine’s Day card.” They rode in silence for another 10 minutes, and then the old man got up to get off the bus. As he stepped out into the aisle, he suddenly placed the roses on the young man’s lap and said, “I think my wife would want you to have these. I’ll tell her that I gave them to you.” He left the bus quickly. As the bus pulled away, the young man watched as the old man walked into a cemetery.
Rob Jackson
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